Talk It Over Week #3

Out of the Quiet Week 3: Talk It Over with Others

A Conversation Guide for Small Groups 

Small Groups at Lakeland exist to make disciples who make disciples in relational environments as we live out the four habits – accountability, shepherding, developing others, and on mission.

ICEBREAKER: If you could live in any sitcom, which one would it be?


SCRIPTURE: This week’s Talk It Over guide is based on Chapter 5 of the book Leading Me by Steve A. Brown and Ephesians 4:11-16.


Watch Pastor Josh’s Talk It Over video.  Find this at under Messages/Small Group Resources.

DISCUSSION STARTER:  Who is the first friend you remember having? How old were you? What do you remember doing together? Do you still talk to them today?



  1. To do life well, we need relationships that help form us. Who forms you? Who do you help form?
  2. Are there any areas in your life (work, family, church, friendships) where you feel if you walked away, no one would notice? What do you tell yourself that makes you believe this?
  3. Do you feel people who are “more visible” are somehow more important than who you currently are? Why or why not?
  4. Have you ever burned a relationship bridge?
    What happened? Did you try to restore it?
  5. Review the different relationship groups that help build a 360-degree community of support (Family, Friendships, Church, Being Mentored, Being a Mentor, Spiritual Direction, Coach, Peers, Normal People.) Do you have people in each of these areas? What area(s) do you need to invest in?
  6. How are YOU doing in relationships with other people? What are you responsible for?
  7. One of the purposes of trusted community is to have others be able to come to us to point out what they see in us – good and bad. When you hear something that stings, how do you usually respond? What are some better ways you could receive constructive criticism?
  8. How can we know if we’ve entered into a toxic relationship and need to create some distance? Do you have people you
    need to spend less time with? Who should you be
    spending more time with?

 Close in prayer.