Talk It Over Week #1

Out of the Quiet Week 1: Talk It Over with Others

Small Groups at Lakeland exist to make disciples who make disciples in relational environments as we live out the four habits – accountability, shepherding, developing others, and on mission.


ICEBREAKER (optional): What is the most interesting fact you know?


SCRIPTURE: This week’s Talk It Over guide is from both Luke 9:43-56 and Chapters 1-3 from the book Leading Me by Steve A. Brown. Please read the scripture together in your Small Group before proceeding. If you didn’t get a chance to read from Leading Me, that’s okay! We’ll explore it together.


Watch Pastor Josh’s Talk It Over video.  Find this at under Messages/Small Group Resources.


DISCUSSION STARTER:  What is the best thing you have going on in your life at the moment?



  1. Chapter 1 in Leading Me discusses the difference between King David’s leadership style (humble, dependent on God) and King Saul’s leadership style (prideful, independent, fear based). How do you lead?
  2. Chapter 2 in Leading Me uses the example of a vehicle dashboard that signals what we need to focus on and correct in order to have a properly functioning vehicle. In the areas of Spiritual Intimacy, Character, Relationships, and Service, what area(s) might you need to tend to?
  3. Chapter 3 of Leading Me describes Key Practice #1: Growing Your Vision (of God). What are some of the first things that come into your mind when you think about God?
  4. Page 51 in Leading Me includes a visual of the Cycle of Grief. Share which segment – Achievement, Identity, Drivenness, Acceptance – you have found yourself caught in most often. Why do you think this is?
  5. What has built your current view of God? (e.g., upbringing, friends, authority figures, actions of others, etc.)
  6. What pieces of your life are you trying to control? (e.g., finances, relationships, addiction, career, etc.) Why might that be?
  7. What do you believe about God that leaves you feeling weary, guilty or unworthy? Together, work through how this might be a misapplied attribute of God.

Close in prayer.  Lord, how should we see you?