Talk It Over 08.25.2019

Then and Now: Week 2 – TALK IT OVER with Others

This week’s complete  Talk It Over.

Small Groups at Lakeland exist to make disciples who make disciples in relational environments as we live out the four habits – accountability, shepherding, developing others, and on mission.


ICEBREAKER (optional):  When receiving bad news, do you prefer it sugar-coated or delivered bluntly?


SCRIPTURE: This week’s Talk It Over guide is based on John 17:20-26. Please read this together in your Small Group before proceeding.


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DISCUSSION STARTER:  Have you ever belonged to a club, group or school that issued uniforms? What did you like about them? Did anything embarrass you about having to wear them?



  1. What is the difference between unity and uniformity?
  2. Answer the questions posed in James 4:1 “What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you?”
  3. Talk about a time when your mindset or actions shifted and the result was greater unity with your family, workplace or relationships.
  4. Five practical steps or habits to bring about unity when we don’t agree with others are listed below.  Which of these “stings” a bit to hear?
    1. Confront your own stuff
    2. Talk to the person who offended you
    3. Develop a gracious heart (slay your critical heart)
    4. Stop stirring up drama
    5. Learn to be led (submit to authority)
  1.  Why are we reluctant to take the steps necessary on our end to bring about unity? How does this reluctance equate to us not fully trusting God to do His part in bringing about unity?
  1. Read John 17:20-23. If we get unity right, the world will know about God and His incredible gift of salvation. Are you ready and willing to take the next steps forward to encourage, grow and create unity? Give voice to one thing you will commit to doing this week that will bring about unity.
  2.  Just as there are steps to take to move toward unity, there are also things we can do to protect against disunity. One way is to protect conversations. What does this mean to you? What other things can you do to guard against disunity or dissension?


Close in prayer. Consider praying in smaller groups or pairs.