Talk It Over – 05.26.2019

Say What?: Week 6 | TALK IT OVER with Others

This Week’s Complete TALK IT OVER (pdf)


Small Groups at Lakeland exist to make disciples who make disciples in relational environments as we live out the four habits – accountability, shepherding, developing others, and on mission.


ICEBREAKER (optional): If you could get on a plane tomorrow, where would you go?


SCRIPTURE: This week’s Talk It Over guide is based on Matthew 5:21-48, The Sermon on the Mount. It is suggested that your Small Group takes turns reading the noted scripture sections prior to answering each question.


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DISCUSSION STARTER: Think of a time when you were looking through job posting requirements, classroom rules, or volunteer duties. How does knowing what is expected of you make the job you are about to do easier? If you do not perform in the way that is clearly outlined, would you expect to be fired, reprimanded or asked to leave?



  1. MURDER: Matthew 5:21-26. There is huge gap between saying “I’m angry at you” and actually murdering someone, and yet Jesus is closing the gap. Why do we tend to rationalize our level of sin as “not that bad?” What makes us comfortable operating in the gap?
  2. ADULTERY & DIVORCE: Matthew 5:27-32. Is there something you know you should get rid of because you know it always leads to temptation?  Are there things you know you should stop doing because they serve as a temptation to others? (Things you post, share about, joke about?)
  3. OATHS: Matthew 5:33-37. All you need to say is yes or no. How do we use “many more words” to explain or justify our failure in keeping our oath to others?
  4. EYE FOR EYE: Matthew 5:38-42. Why do we feel we have the right or duty to bring justice to those who mistreat us? How is the act of complaining and letting everyone know how you were mistreated indicating your own lack of trust in God’s ability to judge others justly?
  5. LOVE FOR ENEMIES: Matthew 5:43-48. The challenge is to not just love those who are easy to love. The only way the love of God will be seen is when love is demonstrated where it makes no sense. How can we practically love those who are against us? Or maybe who want nothing to do with us? What does this love look like?
  6. The Message translates Matthew 5:48 this way: “In a word, what I’m saying is, Grow up. You’re kingdom subjects. Now live like it. Live out your God-created identity. Live generously and graciously toward others, the way God lives toward you.” Where have you been living to just hit the lowest bar? How do you sense God wanting you to step up to a higher bar in your life? How do you need to “grow up” in your role as a kingdom subject?



Close in prayer. Consider praying in smaller groups or pairs.