“Take the Lead: In Conflict”
Small Groups at Lakeland exist to make disciples who make disciples in relational environments as we live out the four habits – accountability, shepherding, developing others, and on mission.
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DISCUSSION STARTER (optional): Let’s start by asking if anyone has a specific takeaway from this weekend’s message that they’d like to share.
- Have you ever found yourself in the midst of a silly conflict? Share this with the group.
- ACCOUNTABILITY: Today we are going to study a foundational passage for the biblical way to handle conflict among followers of Jesus. Let’s read Matthew 18:15-22. [Read] Based on this passage what is the first step in handling conflict? [Answer: Go to your brother/sister and tell them their fault] When we are hurt by someone else, what are sinful responses we take (or are tempted to take)?
- SHEPHERDING: This passage places so much weight on “hearing/listening.” [v. 15, 16, 17] Who is instructed to listen – the offended or the offender? [Answer: The offender] Why is this so important in confronting someone else?
- If the offender refuses to listen, the Bible instructs us to bring in witnesses and (if they still don’t listen) to involve the church. Have you ever experienced this? Was that a positive or negative experience? With the goal of relational restoration in mind, what type of people should be enlisted as witnesses in biblical conflict resolution?
- DEVELOPING OTHERS: God is serious about restoration and it all happens in relational community with others. How can our small group be prepared to walk in a Christ-like way in resolving conflict and restoring hurt? [Main takeaways: Being prepared to be initiators of restoration, when we offend we will listen, be discerning and trusted witnesses, etc] How can we (as a small group) be more obedient in this as disciples of Jesus?
- DEVELOPING OTHERS: Challenge: Are there any corrections that you need to make in how you have been handling a conflict in your life? Considering Matthew 18, what is your next step?