Questions – 03.11.2018

“First World Problems: Acceptance”


Small Groups at Lakeland exist to make disciples who make disciples in relational environments as we live out the four habits – accountability, shepherding, developing others, and on mission. 


ICEBREAKER (optional): Would you rather travel back in time to meet your ancestors or into the future to meet your descendants?


DISCUSSION STARTER (optional): Let’s start by asking if anyone has a specific takeaway from this weekend’s message that they’d like to share.




  1. Acceptance was the focus of the message this weekend. What stage or season of your life were you overly concerned about acceptance?
  2. SHEPHERDING: Have you ever found yourself needing to choose between faith and acceptance? Tell the group more about that.  (Leader’s Tip: If all your stories are “I chose Jesus”, take a moment to ask if anyone ever chose acceptance over faith.)
  3. ACCOUNTABILITY: Turn in your Bibles to James 4:1-4.  Today we are going to wrestle with tough verses written by James – the brother of Jesus.  As we wrestle with acceptance in the 21st Century, James “draws a line in the sand” in the 1st  [Read the verses, then ask…]  According to this passage, how is friendship with the world described in verse 1-3?  What does this passage say about us/humanity?
  4. DEVELOPING OTHERS: What does James 4:4 teach us about true acceptance? (Answer: Acceptance, approval, and friendship with God is all that matters! Also James 2:2 could be helpful here – Abraham’s belief in God, makes him right with God and he is considered “God’s friend”).  How do we obey this truth?  What does this mean for us in this group?
  5. ON MISSION: This weekend we heard about how faith in God will sometimes come across as weird or strange to others (remember Paul being lowered in a basket through a hole in the wall). What weird or strange thing do you think God wants you to do this week?